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Relationships & Influence

Ideas rarely emerge in isolation.

While Horkan.com is primarily a site about technology, cyber security, resilience, systems thinking, psychology, governance, and human behaviour, many of the questions explored here originated elsewhere. They emerged from conversations, experiences, friendships, relationships, communities, failures, successes, and periods of life that changed the way I understood the world.

Over time I began to notice that certain people had influenced not merely individual articles, but entire lines of inquiry.

The influence was not always obvious at the time.

An article might appear to be about cyber security, neurodiversity, artificial intelligence, psychology, resilience engineering, governance, or leadership. Yet looking back, common themes began to emerge. Certain questions would appear repeatedly across multiple disciplines. The subject matter varied. The underlying inquiry remained remarkably consistent.

This section attempts to document some of those influences.

It is not intended as a record of relationships.

Nor is it intended as a commentary on the people themselves.

Instead, it represents an intellectual biography of sorts. A map of how different people influenced the questions I was asking and, consequently, the ideas that emerged on Horkan.com.

The articles collected under these tags are not necessarily about the individuals concerned.

More often, they represent attempts to answer questions that arose during particular periods of life.

Progression:

Meaning → Identity → Growth → Resilience

or:

  1. Why am I here? (Jade)
  2. Who am I within systems? (Sevgi)
  3. How do people develop? (Sonia)
  4. How do we cope with uncertainty? (Leiann)

The Evolution of Inquiry

Looking back across several years of writing, four distinct periods become visible.

Dates Name Emerging Theme Dominant Question
2019–2024 Jade Tub Meaning, contribution, usefulness What gives life meaning beyond contribution and competence?
2024–2025 Sevgi Aksoy Recognition, legitimacy, identity How do people achieve recognition, legitimacy, and belonging within complex systems?
2025 Sonia Hall Growth, psychology, authenticity What conditions allow people to grow, heal, and become more fully themselves?
2025–2026 Leiann Lucas Uncertainty, attachment, resilience How do I explain myself, and how do people remain functional, rational, and human when certainty is unavailable?

These themes were not planned.

They emerged naturally through lived experience and later became visible only when viewed retrospectively.

What fascinates me now is that the progression appears almost developmental.

The questions evolved from meaning, to identity, to growth, and finally to resilience.

Meaning

The earliest period focused on usefulness, contribution, community, stewardship, and purpose.

The central challenge was not uncertainty.

It was meaning.

Identity

The next period increasingly explored legitimacy, recognition, attribution, professional identity, and belonging.

Many articles from this period ask a variation of the same question:

“Who gets recognised, and why?”

Growth

A shorter but intellectually significant period focused on psychology, authenticity, empathy, personal development, and human flourishing.

The focus shifted from systems themselves to the conditions that allow people to thrive within them.

Resilience

More recently, uncertainty has become a dominant theme.

Questions of resilience, adaptation, attachment, persistence, recovery, and decision-making amid ambiguity recur throughout the work.

The challenge is no longer understanding a system.

The challenge is to continue functioning while the system reveals itself.

Why This Exists

Most blogs document events.

This section documents influence.

The people referenced here changed the questions I was asking, and the resulting articles span cyber security, psychology, neurodiversity, artificial intelligence, leadership, resilience, and human relationships.

What connects them is not subject matter.

What connects them is origin.

Charlie Munger’s Framework for Staying Calm During Uncertainty: Get to Truth Quickly

Charlie Munger’s resilience was not built on optimism, confidence, or emotional detachment. It was built on a set of mental operating principles that allowed him to remain rational when outcomes were uncertain. By accepting reality, avoiding predictable mistakes, focusing on controllable factors, and applying multiple mental models, Munger developed a framework for thinking clearly under pressure. These principles extend far beyond investing and offer practical lessons for leadership, engineering, business, relationships, and any situation where important decisions must be made without complete information.

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Signal Under Conditions of Flow: The Architecture of Public Cognition After the Open Web

An exploration of how modern internet systems optimise for communication, visibility, and behavioural flow while increasingly undermining the structural conditions required for cumulative public cognition. Examining flow systems, identity-mediated participation, infrastructural governance, AI-driven abstraction, and cognitive continuity, the article argues that public reasoning is becoming constrained, minority infrastructure operating inside environments optimised for throughput rather than understanding.

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Post-Rebonding Shame Collapse (PRSC) in Adult Attachment: An Integrative Analysis of Shame-Proneness, Capacity Overload, and Relational Withdrawal

Attachment insecurity does not eliminate the desire for closeness; it destabilises the capacity to tolerate closeness once achieved. This paper proposes Post-Rebonding Shame Collapse (PRSC), a descriptive framework for understanding abrupt relational withdrawal following renewed closeness in shame-prone, insecurely attached adults. Integrating attachment theory, shame research, and emotion-regulation findings, PRSC distinguishes capacity collapse from avoidance, disinterest, or depression. The model aims to reduce misattribution of intent and clarify why silence may reflect overload rather than rejection.

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Hard-Wired Wetware II: the Post-LLM Web Asymmetric Integration Model (AIM) Defined

The post-LLM web is not replacing humans with machines. It is integrating humans into machine-generated scale. This paper formalises the Asymmetric Integration Model (AIM), arguing that as synthetic systems produce abundant conversational substrate, human participants supply the scarce resource of consequence-bearing legitimacy. Contemporary platforms are shifting from attention extraction toward asymmetrical affective integration.

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Hard-Wired Wetware I: From Attention Extraction to Human Integration

As automation surpasses human traffic and synthetic actors permeate public, semi-private, and gaming ecosystems, the web is reorganising around a new extraction layer. Large language models collapse the cost of human emulation, shifting platforms from attention capture to human integration. The next phase of the internet does not replace people with machines. It recruits them as psychological infrastructure: wetware that supplies legitimacy, empathy, and consequence to autonomous systems.

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Serving the Community: The Story of Servol, Charles Jordan MBE and What Was, What Is, and What Could Be

This article traces the history of Servol Community Services from its founding in 1979 by Charles Jordan MBE, exploring its mission, growth, and the pressures facing modern social-care charities. It reflects on recognition, institutional memory, and the quiet sacrifices behind community work, ending with a personal appeal to honour the charity’s origins and reconnect present delivery with its founding spirit.

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Stolen Valour, Borrowed Honour, and Intellectual Property

This article uses the concept of stolen valour as a metaphor to examine recognition, attribution, and integrity in intellectual property, research, and start-ups. It explores the difference between honour that can be shared and credit that must be earned, arguing that while recognition can be gifted, it only retains meaning when grounded in truth. When attribution is misused, generosity curdles into erasure.

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A History of Cowboy Psychedelia

Wide-brimmed dreams, desert reverb, and the strange saddle between country & mind-expansion… “A History of Cowboy Psychedelia” traces the strange, dust-blown intersection between country music and psychedelic experimentation. From the mythic melancholy of Gram Parsons to the surreal duets of Lee Hazlewood and Nancy Sinatra and onwards to the captivating urgency of Jeffrey Lee Pierce and The Gun Club, this long-form essay maps a hidden aesthetic that runs through outlaw country, cosmic Americana, and outsider folk. It’s not a genre you’ll find in the record bins, but it lingers like a mirage on the edge of American sound. This is music for the lonely, the altered, and the in-between.

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West Midlands Cyber Hub Diaries: Day One (Or Perhaps Day Sixty)

The West Midlands Cyber Hub marks a long-held ambition to give the region a central home for cyber. Building on the rebooted West Midlands Cyber Working Group (WM CWG), the Hub is designed to strengthen community coherence, increase investment, and connect students, SMEs, enterprises, and universities in a neutral space. Supported by DSIT, Innovate UK, Aston University, TechWM, and the Innovation Alliance for the West Midlands, the Hub will open its first phase at Enterprise Wharf in Birmingham, forming the core of a hub-and-spoke model across the region. The project team, led by Sevgi Aksoy and I (Wayne Horkan), with Rebecca Robinson as PM, is preparing for a pre-launch event on 30th September 2025.

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Therapist Fight Club: Carl Rogers’ Person-Centred Psychology for the Neurodiverse Mind

This article reinterprets Carl Rogers’ person-centred psychology through the lens of Asperger’s and systems thinking. Stripping away sentimental language, it presents Rogers’ model as a structured feedback loop, a “Therapist Fight Club” where both therapist and client co-train, honing coherence and self-consistency. Written as an interest piece for the neurodiverse, it reframes therapy not as emotional fixing, but as optimising a system to run with fewer contradictions.

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Innovation Incoming in Space: Notes from the Royal Academy of Engineering Panel, 31 March 2025

The Royal Academy of Engineering’s Innovation Incoming in Space (31 March 2025, Prince Philip House) offered an insightful and fact-rich exploration of the technologies shaping the future of the space economy. With topics ranging from space-based solar power and crystallisation in orbit to modular infrastructure and lunar habitation, the panel discussed how innovation is driving space from the experimental to the operational. Set against the backdrop of geopolitical shifts and commercial competition, the event underscored the UK’s strategic opportunity to lead in agile engineering, cyber resilience, and space-enabled industrial capability. A dawning theme throughout the evening was the growing realisation that space is becoming commercial, contested, and critically dependent on cyber resilience.

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Professionalising Cyber: Reflections from Conway Hall

A first-hand reflection on the UK Cyber Security Council’s recent “The Journey to Professionalisation” event at Conway Hall, exploring the ongoing professionalisation of the cyber security sector. Highlights include the expansion of recognised specialisms, the development of the UK Cyber Skills Framework, and discussions on AI, early-career challenges, and the need for a more inclusive, realistic skills framework to support a growing cyber economy.

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Women Shaping Cyber: Reflections from Aston University

The Women Shaping Cyber event at Aston University, held during International Women’s Day, highlighted the importance of diversity in the West Midlands cyber sector. Keynote speaker Sevgi Aksoy emphasised the human factor in cybersecurity, while roundtable discussions explored barriers facing women, how to attract and retain talent, and how to leverage regional strengths. With contributions from leaders across academia, industry, and government, the event underscored that growth in cyber must also be measured in inclusivity and representation, not just economics.

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